Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Mom In Distress

Hello, my name is Lencey and welcome to my blog. I am a stay at home mom of 3 boys and I am very stressed out. If you have children then I know that you understand where I am coming from. We all live very hective lives and I would like to know how do you coop from day to day. Motherhood is supposed to be a very enjoyable part of life. To be honest I'm not enjoying it very much. It's like I'm in an action movie that will not end. Don't get me wrong, I love my children dearly and I want to be the very best mom that I can but I feel that at times I'm so overwhelmed and stressed that I can't get what I need to done. I guess I am seeking the advice of other mothers who may be going through the same situation. Yesterday as my son was getting off of the bus, I could tell that he had an attitude, which is not like him at the end of the school day, he's usually happy to be home but I guess he already knew what he had coming. He storms through the door and as usual I ask him how was his day. Instead of him answering me he hands me his weekly folder which consist of his homework and a behavioral chart. On his behavioral chart his teacher comments "attitude, refused to read in class". Remaining calm I simply asks "son what happended in school today" and he immediately burst into tears and runs to his room. I'm used to that reaction...it happens all the time. Especially when he thinks that he is going to be punished for something he cries. My solution, I made him stay in his room and read his story with no tv for the rest of the day. Yeah...that was supposed to be my solution but my child being who he is jumps up every five minutes with something different wrong. Or if he's not doing that then he's calling my name over and over and I'm constantly saying please go back to your room, doing whatever he asks so that he can go back to his room. Headache...I know and thats not even the half. My son...he has a twin. Double all of that trouble that I just told you about. Now he doesn't act up in school. He's totally the opposite. He's an angel in school, makes good grades and so does his brother. He has his times so maybe angel wouldn't be the correct term. He's what you call a moma's boy. Sometimes I think we're joined at the hip. It's crazy. I can't even use the bathroom in peace. I don't think I have in at least thirteen months. My youngest is fifthteen months old and I believe he thinks he's still in the womb. He's my baby though. Talk about crying. If I'm out of his sight he pitchs a fit. Finding someone who will keep him is really a challenge. Back to the twins, they are always fighting. Maybe it's a twin thing or even a boy thing, but it's driving me crazy. And it's everywhere we go. I feel like when we're out in public that people are looking at me thinking "man she needs to control her children", or "they have no home training". That's the total opposite of me. I'm the type of person that is always telling my children how to respect people, especially their elders. Oh and let me not forget my famous words "please don't go into this store and act up." Am I the only one whose always giving their children a speech before going into a store or a resturant. I mean you would think that as many times I've said these things that it would stick by now. Or am I expecting too much. I don't think it's too much to ask for two seven year olds to go into a store and not play.

2 comments:

  1. You sound like a perfectly normal mother with normal children. It's very hard to be home with your children all day. Mother's get very little alone time - let alone time to do something other than take care of someone else. I was a stay-at-home mom too. It was really hard sometimes! I also had an attached child - she was attached to me for a good ten years! But now she is a lovely un-attached, but beautiful, young woman who loves me very much.

    Your son may not have wanted to read in class because he felt shy. Try to remember how hard it was at that age - kids can be cruel sometimes. I once had a professor tell me that children that act out with their mother often do it because it is a safe place to put their anxiety. Think how hard it is for us to figure things out. Children often can't express what is really worrying them.

    Try to do something nice for yourself every day. A bubble bath or look for blogging mothers - there are a ton out there! Many feeling exactly like you are. Hang in there, and thanks for visiting my blog.

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  2. I just read your first post and I ache for you but I agree with Lover of Life (Nancy). It is hard to be a mother and boys act out all the time. But if he doesn't want to read in class, he may have his reasons. Maybe he has trouble reading or he's so shy the pain of getting in front of the others causes him to make mistakes. You might want to schedule a meeting with the teacher to discuss this. She can find another way to work with him. Also, just because they are twins doesn't make them the same. Sounds like one child is being the "good son" while the other has problems. My sons are one year apart and we noticed that with them. It's hard for the one who's having trouble in school when the other one isn't. You didn't mention their ages but I'm guessing third or fourth grade?

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